MEN AND WOMEN: IS ATTRACTION RATIONAL OR EMOTIONAL?
“Cosmopolitan” magazine keeps saying that “women were born to attract,” which is fine with this Third World traditional Arab Muslim, But, in rational, secular, individualistic and free America, it doesn’t seem an easy job because women apparently need to balance between the emotional (“I am pretty”) and the rational (“I am equal to you”). On the other hand, men apparently also need to balance between the emotional (“She is sexy”) and the rational (“She is equal to me”), which, at least for this man, is, also, not an easy job.
That was why I was intrigued by this piece from “Forbes” magazine, advising professional women, on “Not What to Wear to Work:
1. “Showing too much cleavage at work is the No. 1 fashion faux pas. Studies show that women who dress in sexy attire in a professional environment are more often passed over for promotions than women who dress more conservatively. Bottom line: If you want to get ahead, ditch the low-cut top.”
2. “Wearing a micro-mini may send the message that you’re trying to compensate for skills you lack in other areas. Also, the knee is a visual anchor. People’s attention will be drawn downward when they approach you, instead of toward your face where it should be. Put on a skirt that you can sit down in without showing too much thigh.”
3. “Summer materials look and feel cool and pretty, but in the light of a staff meeting, they can reveal the outlines of your legs — and much more. Clothes with lining are always a safe choice.”
4. “A rule of thumb when it comes to accessories in the workplace: Less is more. Costume jewelry, when worn in bulk, tends to look tacky. The real thing, on the other hand, can come off as gaudy. A boardroom-ready look includes one show stopper plus subtle accessories. That means if you’re going to put on a chunky beaded necklace, stick to minimal earrings and arm candy.”
